Change

Should we change for others? 


More often than not, we'd meet some friendship problems of our own (not that I'm in any right now). More often than not, we'd bow our heads in regret, as we apologise for initiating an argument. And more often than not, we think we've done nothing wrong. So why and what are we apologising for? We promise to change to suit others but why should we change ourselves when we've done nothing wrong? 


Remember this guy Steven Covey? 

"We can never really change someone; people must change themselves" - Steven Covey

I guess, the real question is, do you want to patch up? You can't change others. The only solution is, yourself. The more you try to force ideas into others, the bigger your 'fight' becomes. Wouldn't you agree? As you are trying to change someone, that person is, similarly, trying to change you. You can't really change someone, can you? But because of pride, you can't step down, yes? I mean, if you can't be bothered to patch up, then all the best gathering your battalion of pawns to defend you. 


If you were to take a step back, who knows what might happen? Yes, you may have suffered a little scratch on your pride, but ain't it all worth it? Taking the first step to change yourself, I guarantee you, not only will you rid off an enemy, you will regain a friend. 


However, some may say that we must not change for others because it is our lives we lead and we are not to be trampled on. That'd be a little too selfish, no? But there is something I'd like to point out. That is, when we change, I don't think we change only for others. It is ourselves we change for. Isn't it maturation as we learn to give in to others? But don't get me wrong, I don't mean back down the moment you have conflicting interests. I said take a step back.


Ultimately, it is compromise. Find a workable solution. That is a form of change, no? You take a mini step back and let the other party do so too, then create a solution that would work for you both. 


So yes, change is necessary, and yes, we should change ourselves, not only for others but ourselves. "All you need is just 20 seconds of courage".


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Love,
Ad.
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[P.S Sorry if this was pure crap. Keke. It's late. I've got CO tomorrow, goodnight everyone!]

Beginnings

Hello World,

It's a pleasure to be back on blogger. As we welcome a new year, we welcome a new 'me'. I am looking forward to starting anew when term starts. So.. Until then, I'm still me. Okay, that doesn't really make sense but, whatever.

Lots of things happened last night. A little sensitive but I think I should just forget about it. I shouldn't have opened my big mouth. I must stop letting little things like that affect me. I think I just got a whole bunch of haters from taking sides. Tsk tsk. My nosy mouth apologises. 

But speaking about that, is it okay to bottle up because you're scared of getting haters? I was speaking my mind but if what my mind says is contrary to what majority think, should I say it anyway? By right, I think I should. Perhaps instead of spouting nonsense on impulse, I guess I should just present my argument in a more subtle way to avoid it making a big spectacle out of one comment.

Reading the different arguments regarding the topic, I really should stop and listen before speaking. A major flaw. Sometimes, it's really not worth being involved. But on other occasions, you have to make a difference. So how do we determine what to do and when to do it? Hmm... I've yet to answer that question myself.

My next topic would be about attention. Everyone needs some attention. Honestly, I need quite a bit of attention to reach satisfactory level but when I get the attention I want, I become horribly shy. I need to learn to work around that and use the attention to my advantage. I really don't like it when people steal too much attention. I'm a fairly "I" person as in DISC. Figures? 

There you go. My blog posts will more or less be about answering my own questions rather than what I ate today. In other words, these are reflections. I waste a lot of paper penning all these thoughts down. Might as well start a new blog. That way, I can think faster. Alright then, that's all for me on my first post this new year. 

Have a happy Lunar New Year! 

Loves,

Ad. 

♥